"77 Ex. “I recognize that you need to talk more about our relationship. What is on your mind?” 3. Take accountability and responsibility for your own a ctions. Do not make excuses. Apologize and correct the behavior (if possible). Example: “I'm sorry that I yelled at you earlier. I've been under a lot of pressure at work, but it is unfair to take it out on you.” 4. Use reflective listening. Repeat what your partner has stated and then respond. Show them that you are listening and hearing them. Example: Partner 1: I would appreciate it if you would talk to me before you discipline the kids. That way we can be a united front.\" Partner 2: What I'm he aring is that you would like for us to talk about disciplining the kids before I make any decisions. I think that is a good idea. 5. Continue dating. Make a point to rekindle the dating aspect of your relationship. Ex. Go for walks, hold hands, act sill y, etc. Find ways to show appreciation to your partner throughout the day (i.e., e - mails, notes, phone calls, etc.) 6. Seek help if needed. If you can identify these negative interactions in your relationship or you think you may need help, see a licensed ma rriage and family therapist or other professional. Do not try and fix everything on your own. Example: Talk to a trusted family member, friend, or your local extension agent in order to find resources in your area. Before a couple can learn and/or pr actice new routines in their relationship, they must rid themselves of the old ways that aren't working. It is important to first identify negative patterns and destructive behaviors and target them for change. At that point, the couple can begin rebuildin g their relationship. Section"